Even if you love your body, it can be intimidating to be completely naked in front of someone for the first time (or even the 20th time). One reason why I like wearing lingerie is actually because it gives me something sexy to have on that doesn’t have to be taken off if I don’t want to. It can also be sexy to keep something seductive on. For me, I need to feel comfortable with someone before I want to get totally nude and when you’re having casual sex that type of intimacy just isn’t there. I save that for after at least the first date.
If you want to get more comfortable with yourself naked and reduce the stress of taking it all off, I suggest trying a few things.
- Be naked alone. Seeing how your body looks nude and not immediately thinking about how much you hate this or that body part is a kind of product of desensitization. You’re trained to hate your body, and constantly seeing it naked is going to be uncomfortable at first. But eventually you’ll learn to look at your body without judgment, which is an important step on the path to self-love. If you’re going to be okay with someone else seeing you naked, you have to declare a truce with your body.
- Masturbate naked with the lights on. More desensitization, but eventually more fun. When you begin to associate your naked body with sexual pleasure, it’ll become easier to lose yourself in the moment and not allow the running negative narrative in your mind to have a voice. Touch your body (not just that area) and feel it respond. Get to know your particular erogenous zones. Not only will this benefit your self-image, it’ll net you more knowledge about what turns you on so you can guide future (or current) partners.
- Try the lingerie trick. If you don’t like taking off your clothes even for non-casual sex, wear something sexy under your outfit if you think you might be having sex. Many bodysuits have snap crotches so there’s easy access. Start out just wearing the lingerie and eventually you’ll work your way up to being okay with less and less on. But if you’re like me, you accelerate quickly and sometimes not everything comes off in time. And that’s okay too. There’s no rule that says you have to be totally naked.
But, if you want to get naked, these are a few ways you can get to that point of comfort.